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Hello World and welcome to my very first blog.

Over the years the question that I am asked most often is “Are we compatible?” It does not matter who is asking about whom, it is still the same question, whether it is a couple, parents about their children, business colleagues, family members, in-laws or friends asking.

Everyone wants to be liked, to “get on” with others and even to “make the connection”. The popularity of Social Networks is a testament to this fact. The Every121 website has been developed to help you make good connections with others, especially those who are compatible with you, and to help you build quality personal relationships.

Types of Relationships

There are 5 types of relationships that you can have. These are:-

A relationship

• - where you support someone.
• - where someone supports you.
• - where you challenge/ conflict/ control someone.
• - where someone challenges/ conflicts/ controls you.
• - where you are both similar.

I am not talking about financial support, although this may also be the case, I am talking in terms of emotional or moral support, depending on the relationship. On the other side you will meet or know someone who challenges, conflicts or controls you. These are harsh words and can be very negative if used in their most severe sense.

I know great loving relationships where one partner controls the other and it is accepted because one feels that they need some sort of control in their life and they are happy to let someone offer that side in the relationship. In that case it is not negative and as the saying goes “opposites (can) attract”. So logically, there are no “right” and “wrong” relationships but personal growth in the acceptance and understanding of the other person.

Generally speaking, you will probably know whether you like someone or not once you have met them. What isn’t obvious is the type of relationship that might follow. A personal relationship may be considered ‘good’ or ‘not so good’ depending on the circumstances and therefore Every121 is not set up in judgement of any of your personal relationships. I believe in every personal relationship as being a learning experience that helps you to grow in character and that in its own way can be very rewarding depending on how it is viewed.

Where can relationships go wrong?

People are usually too busy to be aware of the type of relationship they are involved in and this can lead to problems and at worst to breakdown of that relationship. This holds true for husband/ wife; brother/ sister; mother/ father; parent/ child; boss/ employee; anyone and everyone. If you are aware of the type of personal relationship you have with the different people in your life you can decide for yourself what would be the most appropriate course of action to take in any given situation.

One example could be, if you have a conflicting relationship with a family member and you are continually “making the effort” only to have it thrown back in your face, by knowing the type of relationship you have may bring you to an understanding and acceptance of the other person.

Conversely you could be getting on great with a friend or someone but have no idea who supports whom or if you are similar. Being similar would be where you have the same or similar primary character traits as the other person and this is most obvious in school friends of the same age.

Being aware of the type of relationship you are in can give you a better understanding and appreciation of those around you and can lead you to focus your efforts on the relationships you want to develop and accept those you cannot change.

The topic of ‘types of relationships’ in vast and complex and just because you are accepting one type of relationship with one person this does not mean that you will accept a similar one from someone else.

Ultimately everyone makes their own decision and choice. It is comforting to know that there are a few sites on the Web that can assist you in making an informed selection. Some sites ask psychometric questions covering many different topics while I look at “this is the person’s character and behaviour can be conditioned”.

I believe that Every121 can help you to better understand the love, romance, friends and family relationships in your life.

John

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