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Personal Relationships in the Spotlight

Why does a good and loving personal relationship sometimes go wrong?

You know or read about a couple who appear just perfect together and then the next thing you know, they have split up.  There are any number of examples in the celebrity world but take the article (http://women.timesonline.co.uk/tol/life_and_style/women/celebrity/article6609795.ece) written by Shane Watson of The Times about what is probably the most famous relationship triangle in the media, the Brangjen Triangle, as he calls it.  So what about Jennifer, Brad and Angelina?

Using the personality profiling and relationship compatibility system at www.every121.com I get these insights into each of their characters:-

Brad Pitt & Jennifer Aniston

First off, were/ are they compatible?  Yes they are.  What kind of relationship did they have? It was a supportive type of relationship with Brad being the supporter of Jennifer.

What is Brad’s character and how does it relate to his Character Dynamics?

If I select a few traits from his character to demonstrate the individual:-

- is usually free-spirited which can make him appear to be chaotic and undisciplined.

- he dislikes conflict or being pushed around.

- he sometimes does not see the importance of communicating clearly.

- is charismatic, flamboyant and graceful.

- can be romantic and at times nostalgic

- can expect to be taken care of and can be dependent.

- may do whatever it takes to get what he wants.

His Character Dynamics are:-

He is very easy going and does not stress himself.  He will usually take things in his stride and accept them as being part of life’s experiences.  He can be dependant and needs outside motivation because he can wait for things to happen.

Now Jennifer’s Character and how it relates to her Character Dynamics

Again, I will select a few traits from her character as follows:-

- appears gentle and easy-going but can change moods quickly.

- can be stubborn and impulsive.

- is practical, reliable and thoughtful.

- can change her mind frequently (like the wind) and this can lead to difficulties in relationships.

- needs support and reassurance.

- values loyalty.

- likes change to happen slowly and can resist unless she initiates it.

- is usually very demanding of others.

- loves courtship and to be wooed.

Her Character Dynamics

She is self-monitoring and keeps herself under control.  As a result, she is able to work on her own and is self motivated.  She does not like to be criticized as she has already done it to herself, once a mistake is realised, and this can result in a strong reaction.  She may choose to ignore perceived injustice or crusade against it especially if it has a direct impact on her life.  Under stress she may become rebellious or explosive.

Brad Pitt & Angelina Jolie

Are they compatible?  Again the answer is Yes!  What kind of relationship do they have?  Yet again this is a supportive type of relationship with Angelina being the supporter of Brad.  Both Angelina and Brad have diplomatic and fun loving traits in common which would lead to them feeling a certain bond.

Finally, Angelina’s Character and how it relates to her Character Dynamics

Here is a small selection of Angelina’s character traits:-

- reflects back what others want to see and hear.

- is a natural diplomat and is generally optimistic.

- is charismatic, flamboyant and graceful.

- can expect to be taken care of and can be dependent.

- is a master of exerting passive control over others.

- does not like to feel left out.

- can spoil her men

- can experience a life of ups and downs, successes and failures.

- does not like to be taken for granted.

- people can naturally gravitate to her.

Her Character Dynamics are:-

She is very easy going and does not stress herself. She will usually take things in her stride and accept them as being part of life’s experiences.  She can be dependant and needs outside motivation because she can wait for things to happen.

What does all this tell us?

Contrary to what Shane Watson wrote it is my opinion that it has probably always been all about Brad.  In Jennifer he found a motivated successful woman with whom he was compatible.  May be she was too motivated or too demanding!  I would certainly see a lack of clear communication as being a problem so it also might have been that work schedules and success got in the way of a good relationship.  In case you are wondering and in my opinion, Angelina and Jennifer, in spite of what happened, would never have got along as they are opposites.

Speculation

Brad has now got a nice easy going supportive relationship.  He has also got his children.  So what next?  There is no real motivation for him to achieve anything else unless it is going to come from his agent or the studios.  Is he going to get bored?

Angelina also has the kids and her work as a Goodwill Ambassador for the UN Refugee Agency which fits in very well with her character.  Will her international travels as an ambassador get in the way of this relationship?  Her character is prone to continually making similar mistakes throughout life.  Could this be in her relationships?

What about Jennifer? Part of her character is that she will wait for her ideal partner to come along.  Did that already happen with Brad?  Will she ever find love again?  Or will her inner motivation keep her focussed on work?

I would agree with Shane Watson in that I don’t think this saga is over yet and as said “Bring on the next twist, please” so that I can run the next phase through www.every121.com.

John

Hello World

I have already written a few blogs and have been asked to give some examples from the 5 different types of personal relationships people can have.  Needless to say there is an infinite number of examples but where you can identify with the people the result is more pertinent.  For that reason I will pick celebrities who are currently in the news and where the information needed is readily available on the internet.

Serena & Venus Williams

Both are super athletes and finalists at the 2009 Wimbledon Tennis Grand Slam, again.  So what kind of relationship do they have?   Using the Every121 profiling system I have looked at the basic personality and the character dynamics.  This shows me that both these ladies are relaxed types of individuals with different character motivation.

This motivation comes from the interaction of each side of your two basic characteristics that is displayed in your Character Dynamics.  Venus needs outside motivation to work while Serena sees that there is a job to be done and she will do it in a very focussed and single-minded way.

Venus has the characteristics of a caring individual with natural mothering instincts.  She would also be a good learner who can absorb information quickly.  The other side of her character would lend to her being diplomatic and enjoying life’s comforts.  This would give a character dynamics of:-

‘Venus can tend to be pushy and demanding.  She can be overly observant and preoccupied with surroundings.  She is likely to have strong opinions (sort of, mother knows best) that can lead to being a little over critical.  A friendly, but firm, guiding hand is best to get her to ease up and be more understanding’.

Serena is more laid back, going with the flow and enjoying all the international contacts and people she meets.   What she learnt as a child still holds true as both sides of her personality are the same.  This leads to her character dynamics being:-

‘Serena has always had the confidence that her learnt experiences are correct which may lead to difficulties in understanding how others could have a differing opinion from similar situations.  Time and, sometimes proof, are needed for her to come to an acceptance and understanding of any differences’.

Are they compatible?

According to the ancient system developed into Every121 the two sisters are not really considered compatible.  Venus would be the controlling influence over Serena who could feel a certain amount of pressure from this relationship.   But Serena is a person who ‘gets the job done’, so it is very difficult for Venus to state that she knows better when Serena has become the best at what she has chosen.  This is the trade-off and why this relationship works (at least on the tennis court).

Looking at the basic personalities, in my opinion, it is possible to see how Venus and Serena work so well together.  It is almost like an ebb and flow situation with the mothering, caring, diplomatic side in Venus and the flexible, adaptable side in Serena.

Needless to say, family would also have a contributing factor into why this particular relationship works.  To do an in-depth study you would and should look at the relationship between each person and their parents as well.

John